10/11/2012 9:11:00 PM Of motives, dialogue and understanding
To the editor:
It never ceases to amaze me when one person judges another person's motives. I recall a school levy vote a couple of years ago which did not pass. An editorial then came in stating that the opposition to the levy was motivated by fear. Today's issues are different but the ability to judge "the other side's" motives has gotten no better. Some may say the other side hates and/or fears while in the other direction the accusations may bad morals and lack of reason.... or fill in the blank.
The trouble with judging other peoples' motives is we are usually wrong. If progress to the best possible resolution is going to be made I highly encourage leaving the motive judgement out of the debate. It only creates a false premise from which the discussion is severely handicapped from ever getting off the ground constructively.
To come to understand another person takes putting your self aside. We all think we are right and we all want to be understood but putting the other person first in your mind will open the gate to the a great place of mutual understanding. Once we get there, resolution may just be found.
As one wise old king once said... the first to plead his case seems right until another comes and examines him.
Eventually, the truth of a matter or solutions can be found but this cannot be done if we bring a false premise of others motives into the discussion.